Secrets To Couples Staying Together

Long lasting, loving relationships needs both partners to actively participate and work towards harmony and understanding. If you are determined to be in for the long run with your partner you need to understand the secrets and act upon them.

Go Out Together

Even though you may not want to do everything your partner wants you to do together, consider it makes us happy to have ones loved one by your side, which makes doing those things totally worth it. But be honest about which events you both feel strongly that you and your partner should attend. Not everything can be a must. Always look at it as a new experience to enjoy and get to know your partners likes and dislikes.

Group / Double Dates

Don't force group or double dates when all couples aren't friends. You don't have to share the same friends. It's OK to still go out one-on-one with your girlfriends, even if you all have significant others. The guys don't have to be friends just because you are, and not every conversation is a group conversation anyway.

Surprise Treats

A little surprise treat goes a long way. Does your partner love ice cream, wine, chocolates or flowers? Picking some up on your way home shows you were thinking of your partner even while going about your boring everyday chores.

Kiss Hello Kiss Goodbye

Kiss hello before doing anything else when you get home. Kiss goodbye when you leave. Even if your in a rush in the morning, just stop a second to kiss your partner quickly, even if asleep, Then an immediate kiss when you reunite at the end of the day means you care about each other above all else.

Say "I Love You"

More "I love you"s are better than fewer. Three words that just never get old. You're seriously not going to say it too much. Say it in different ways if you like, add some spice.

Ask Your Partner How Their Day Went

Never underestimate the value of asking your partner how his/her day went. At the end of the day, even if you felt like no one cared about anything you did, at least you know your partner will not only care but want to know the details.

Free Up Time To Be Together

When life gets busy with work, children, household chores etc. It may feel like a roller coaster which you can't jump off together. Set a limited time of say twenty minutes, for both of you to relax together and talk. Sometimes you have to say no to invitations so you can spend time with each other. Just because your calendar is blank one night, doesn't mean you have to agree to plans if someone asks. Life can get busier as you get older. It's nice to use that free time to just be together.

Be Considerate To Your Partners Family

Treat your partners family like yours. They love to know you think of them as family. And your partner will love to see you treat them like your own family. Call or text from time to time. Hang out with them when your partner isn't around.

Be Sympathetic To Your Partners Illness

Be sympathetic when your significant other is sick. Maybe it means cancelling dinner plans and picking up medicine or nourishing food and drink. Don't complain. No one gets sick on purpose, and if the situation were reversed, you know your partner would take care of you.

Share Household Chores

Take on more of the errands/household chores when the other one is swamped at work. You might not want to, but you do it to make your partner's life easier. Have a mutual to-do checklist, you'll be more likely to do things you actually enjoy together when your partners schedule frees up. Plus, when you have a crazy busy period the sharing of chores all evens out in the end.

Be Respectful About Each Other

Don't make jokes at each others expense. Be respectful and think about what your partner wants you to share with a group. Your partner is not your punch line. If someone talks disrespectfully about your partner, defend them. Even if you're generally too polite to correct people or pull them up on rudeness, sometimes you have to make an exception. After all, you're supposed to be each others biggest supporters.

Be On Time

So many meaningless fights can be avoided by being on time. Prepare yourself twenty minutes earlier than you think you need to. Chances are either you or your partner, or someone in the party you're meeting, is sensitive about punctuality, so be there when you say you will so you don't avoid anyone the wrong way and seem rude.

Keep Each Other Informed Of Plans

Keep each other informed of your individual plans. If you're going to grab a drink with a friend after work, great, have fun. But let your partner know where you're going to be, so they don't worry and know you won't be around If your partner wants to make his/her own plans, it's not a matter of asking permission, it's simply a matter of being courteous.

Respond To Your Partners Communication

Respond to each others texts, calls, etc. No screening when it comes to your significant other. If your partner needs to get in touch for whatever reason, that should be a priority.

Don't Fight When Travelling

Travelling can be stressful, things don't always go to plan. Choose not to fight when you travel. The luxury hotel you booked may have turned out to be not so luxury at all. Or your partner forgot to pack your toiletry kit like they said they would. You can either get cranky about the situation or realise you'll have a good story or inside joke in the future.

Some Fights Are Just Fights

Fights or disagreements don't have to be deal breakers. You can be madly in love with a person and still be mad at that person. Fights don't have to spell The End. Couples that stay together choose the relationship over the conflict.

Be Spontaneous

Make a dinner reservation for just the two of you at the last minute. Or just wander into your favourite restaurant and eat at the bar. Have random morning sex. Surprise your partner with concert tickets. Keeping things unexpected makes being with the person you love even more fun.

Be Faithful

Whatever is going on in your life, or if you need to be physically separate for a period of time, being faithful and knowing your partner is being faithful to you without question, are paramount for a long lasting relationship. Make sure you both understand and agree upon what you both find acceptable, in terms of relations with others from the start. So there are no misunderstandings. Stick to it come what may, regardless of any temptations that come your way.

Love Each Other Unconditionally

Just as you do with your child, you love them unconditionally. Sometimes it really is just that simple with your partner. If you both love each other unconditionally, then naturally there is going to be a lot less conflict and more understanding.

Michael J Robey Psychic.gr Psychic Medium | Psychic Investigator } Spiritual Counsellor www.psychicgr.com